When we say a soulmate we all have an idea what that might be. Most of us think of a perfect someone, with whom we have a perfect connection, perfect love, that we are connected at soul level, perfect harmony – well you get the point – perfect. The only problem with that is that there is no such thing. Or, there is but it’s not perfect in a sense that we think of perfect.
If I was to tell you that sometimes perfect might mean someone who brings you pain and unpleasantness, you’d probably say that I’ve gone out of my mind. But, let me tell you what I mean. If we are stuck in unhealthy patterns and destructive (emotional, mental, physical etc.) and we don’t want to get out of them, then what? Truth is that most of us (read that as almost everybody) don’t like to change. Change requires that you look into yourself honestly, admit that you need to change and then muster the strength to change. For most of us that’s unpleasant. It’s much more to our taste to stay in the midst of garbage than to take it out.
And that’s where pain and unpleasantness come in. If we continue with our destructive patterns we’ll hurt ourselves and the ones around us. Luckily, like everything in nature, you can go only so far, before the correction takes place. What happens in nature if there is too much of one species that are endangering the ecosystem? As a corrective measure nature uses disease, natural disasters, famine and a few other mechanisms to get things in balance again. Similarly, if we continue to be destructive nature or let’s call it life will take preventive measures in the form of pain and unpleasantness. Life is ever evolving, and you are either moving forwards and growing, or you are moving backwards and slowly dying. Only for a very, very short while can you stagnate. So, if you don’t want to change and grow, circumstances in your life are going to arrange themselves in such a way that at some point you’ll have to change or else. And else is never pleasant.
On the other hand we can grow and enjoy ourselves if we are open to change and growth when they come. When we don’t hold on tightly to our garbage and freely let it go, throw it out and free the space for something better, then we are in the flow of life.
But, where do soulmates come in this story. They come in exactly at the right time. Soulmates are people in our life that we are connected with at the soul level and that we are in sync with. There is not only one, but many such people. They come into your lives to remind you of who you really are and to help you grow. If you willing to grow than that meeting of souls we’ll be pleasant one. If you are not, they will poke you and irritate you with their presence and at the same time you’ll be drawn to them. When you resolve each conflict you grow. Life wants to grow and evolve. You are the life evolving. If you obstruct that you’ll suffer. If you go with that flow you’ll prosper. Your soulmates will help you on that path the best way they know how (even if they don’t know that consciously). It’s up to us which way it will be. They are here for our highest good and they will take us there either way. They are sent to us to help us on our path.
There are ways to connect with them and draw them to you. But, that’s another topic which I cover in the workshop.
